One of the biggest questions breastfeeding moms have is, “when do I wean my child”? There are some women who choose to nurse until they return to work. There are those who faithfully pump. Some moms practice ecological breastfeeding, child led weaning, etc… Every mother’s need is different and every child is different.
When do you wean? There is no clear answer.
For me, I had a wonderful work arrangement that allowed me to stay home for the first 10 months of my daughter’s life and continue working from home 3 days a week. I let my daughter nurse on demand and we have been nursing for 28 months. However, I have defiantly struggled at different times. Every mom knows when weaning time is getting close. In fact, here are the 5 signs that tell me (inner mom wisdom) I am ready to wean, and my toddler may be ready too
- All her baby teeth have grown in. When she is lulled off to sleep and her jaw relaxes, sometimes those pearly white choppers become a painful vice grip on my nipple….OUCH!
- She now refers to my breasts as,”tiny milky”. With her fully eating solids and her need to nurse has naturally declined, so has the amount of milk I produce. and supply.
- My period has returned. Again, another drop in milk supply.
- My daughter’s diary intolerance is gone. Bring on the yogurt and all smooth creamy comfort food.
- I experience nursing agitation. This is also referred to as nursing aversion. This is a feeling of wanting your child off of you and away from you because rather than bringing you feelings of closeness and relaxation, it is IRRITATING in an irrational way. It could be related to being “touched out”. For me it does not happen all the time, but has become more frequent over the past 6-9 months, so we are down to nursing at nap time, bed time and first thing in the morning.
While I want to allow my daughter to wean on her own, my body has begun to want something different. Maybe all mother’s long for (in a day dreamy kind of way), to have “their body back”. My daughter is almost 2.5 years old, and I am pretty sure that I am ready to have my body back.
When did your child wean? I would love to hear your story.